Sandra “Sandy” O’Neil

March 4, 1948 - May 18, 2020

Sandra “Sandy” O’Neil, beloved wife of John L. O’Neil for 53 years, passed away on Monday, May 18, 2020. Sandy was born in Boston, MA to Phyllis Buttlar (Robinson) and Harold Buttlar.

She married John O’Neil at the age of 18, and they later settled in Plainfield, CT. Later in life, they purchased a condo in Fort Myers, FL where they enjoyed their winters together.

As a young girl, Sandy dreamed of Travelling the world, and she did just that. Her travels had taken her to all seven continents, and the three longest rivers.

She is survived by her husband, John O’Neil; their daughters, Phyllis Gartman and Pamela Haggett; granddaughters, Cassie Haggett, Ashley Haggett, and Sarah Haggett; sister, Shirley Skapriwsky; as well as many nieces and nephews.

A Celebration of Life service for Sandy will be held in Plainfield, CT at a later date. Details to be announced via

Mullins Memorial Funeral Home & Cremation Service, Fort Myers, is entrusted with final care.


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  11. Linda Buttlar May 21, 2020 at 3:56 pm

    Dear john,and familys;

    i am sorry to hearabout Sandy. I talked to Sandy before Mother’sDay and now she is gone. I will miss her a lot.
    Love Linda and Robert Buttlar.

  12. Denise Rees May 21, 2020 at 5:27 pm

    John, You know we are heartbroken that Sandy is gone. As we spoke today, we are here to do whatever we can to help you–just walk to our door–we are here for you. Thanks for sharing these pictures; it is moving to see Sandy and you in your travels. ~Denise & Bill Rees

  13. Dennis Reilley May 22, 2020 at 12:19 pm


    Louise and I are very saddened by your loss of Sandy, the love of your life. She was such a wonderful person. Dennis

  14. Paula Dickson-Rando May 23, 2020 at 5:53 pm

    Our deepest sympathy for you and your family. We have fond memories of Sandy from the family gatherings, with Cousin Phyllis and the gang. Heart breaking. Love the Dickson (Wildes) Families

  15. Patricia and Anthony Vervena May 31, 2020 at 7:53 pm

    John, our deepest sympathy to you and yours. Sandy was always a presence in every shared activity and will be missed all the more. Afternoon at the pool will never be quite the same. Pat and Tony Vervena

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