Timothy Hillary O’Hara

July 21, 1952 - March 15, 2022

Timothy Hillary O’Hara lost his fierce battle with Dementia March 15th, 2022. He was born July 21st, 1952 in Minneapolis, MN and spent most of his years living in Bonney Lake, WA. It was there he worked for Boeing and raised his family later retiring to Cape Coral, FL. Tim was also a well-respected soccer referee for over 20 years.

Timothy O’Hara is survived by his wife, Patricia; his son, Michael, his daughter, Hillary (Jeff); his grandchildren, Payton and Patrick; his sisters, Susie and Kathy (Melvin); and several nieces and nephews.

Tim joins his son, Patrick; granddaughter, Zoe; mother, Delaine; and brother, Mike awaiting him in heaven.

He will always be remembered for his strength, integrity, humor, sarcasm and his hilarious t-shirts that inspired laughter (and disgust) everywhere he went. Tim is often referred to as a hero by his children as he taught them through example and expression with his endless support. His and Patty’s love is infinite, and they spent 48 wonderful years married. He would say to everyone “Shut Up!” and “Quit Crying!” We will miss you always Mr. Referee, Dad, Brother, Uncle, Friend, Love, and Hero.

We watch him drift away like the sun setting into the horizon during sunset—only he won’t make tomorrows sunrise. We soak in terrifying talk from doctors while the television is singing Kenny Chesney’s country hum. We know we’ll see him again someday but why must we lose him?

–Payton Julia

Some people don’t believe in heroes. But they haven’t met my Dad!

 –Hillary Ann

There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens: a time to be born and a time to die, a time to plant and a time to uproot, a time to kill and a time to heal, a time to tear down and a time to build, a time to weep and a time to laugh, a time to mourn and time to dance…

Ecclesiastes 3:1-4

No formal services are planned at this time.

Memorial Contributions in memory of Timothy Hillary O’Hara are suggested to Hope Hospice, 9470 Healthpark Circle, Fort Myers, FL 33908.

Mullins Memorial Funeral Home & Cremation Service, Cape Coral, is entrusted with final care.


  1. Kathy Fuller Mar 17, 2022 at 9:31 am

    Oh Tim my brother, I’ll miss you so much. This is horrible to all and especially for you. All our vacations that we haven’t went on yet together with Melvin & Patty, what are we going to do? The laughs in Reno (the fucking chair) Patty holding up the wall thinking our airline number is your room number. Cruise to Bahamas, Vegas watching all the wacky people drinking to many footballs. Key West, Fort Lauderdale, Seahawks games, Lazy rivers getting mad at Blackjack table (because you didn’t like to lose) we weren’t done. Love you, you won’t be forgotten. Your sitter Kathy

  2. Michael o'hara Mar 17, 2022 at 11:12 am

    Dad I love you you were my hero my best friend you will be missed but not forgotten I will carry on your legacy for are family and be the strong person you would want me to be tell Patrick hi and we will all be together again one day I love you

  3. Dave & Nancy Beatty Mar 17, 2022 at 11:24 am

    You will surely be missed in our lives Tim. All our fun times at Mexican restaurant drinking margaritas……. always making sure they always had salt, or we’d catch Hell !!!!! All the fun car cruises together enjoying our beautiful cars. We will forever miss your handsome face, your sense of humor and all your snide remarks!!!!! Until we meet again, our sweet Tim

  4. Jeri Mar 17, 2022 at 11:57 am

    Tim, you will be greatly missed. I know you will always watch over and protect your family from above. I know you and Patrick are rejoicing together in heaven.

  5. Debra A Biles Mar 17, 2022 at 2:17 pm

    I am truly sorry to hear of your beloved Tim’s passing. Please know you are in my prayers. May the Lord comfort you during this very difficult time.
    Debbie Kline Biles

  6. Lorrie Crowl Mar 17, 2022 at 3:11 pm

    Patty you and Tim had a great life. His shirts were the funniest even when you didn’t think so. I am sure he will watch over you forever and tell you how to bowl. I wish you all peace in these days when it’s so hard to laugh. One day it will be easier to remember and laugh and see him not suffering from that terrible disease that takes away the ability to be the person that you were

  7. Stevie Leahy Mar 17, 2022 at 4:01 pm

    Rest In Peace, TIm. Give my bestie, Patrick some love up there and maybe a little hell too! I will forever remember you by your wicked sense of humor (even if it was at my expense), your bond with your beautiful wife and how your family always was a priority. You always peached doing the right thing and living life to fullest. Until we meet again…..
    Love alway and forever,
    Stevie Leahy

  8. Jim Mackin Mar 17, 2022 at 4:11 pm

    I haven’t known Tim that long , but what I can say is that he was a very competitive man , with a great sense of humor . God bless your family Patty ,

  9. Hillary Mar 17, 2022 at 6:45 pm

    You held me up. You never let me fall. I love you always.

  10. Debbie Brining Mar 17, 2022 at 11:00 pm

    Nothing but great memories of this loving man. Have know him since high school where all the prettiest girls had a crush on him, but Patty stole his heart! Watched him raise their children and learn to be the best dad he could be. He loved his family and worked hard to give them unconditional love! His smile was killer and his personality was delightful! Tim will be greatly missed and never forgotten by those that loved him😘😘😘

  11. Moe Orcutt Mar 18, 2022 at 7:16 am

    Prayers and love to all all family and love ones. Linda and I are blessed to shared many years and great times with you. Thanks for allowing me to coach Hillary and to get to know the boys. I will always remember you volunteering to teach my girls teams the soccer rules and how respected you were as a referee. God Bless.

  12. Sandy Stumpf Mar 18, 2022 at 5:16 pm

    Unfortunately I never had the pleasure of meeting Tim. Patty holds a very special place in my heart for all the love & care giving she gave to my mother during her time at Franklin house. I loved seeing all the posts on Facebook of their love for one another. R.I.P. Tim
    Hug’s to Patty & the family!✝️

  13. Dee Paskowski Mar 19, 2022 at 7:52 am

    My deepest condolences and sympathy for the loss of your hubby,Patti and your Dad, Hillary. May God preserve your wonderful memories,and comfort you,knowing how much he loved you . I have always believed love never dies,so he continues to love you!

  14. Alan Wilson Mar 19, 2022 at 4:01 pm

    What an awesome guy Tim was. He was great to referee with and will never forget what he did. Yes, his T-shirts were funny

  15. Tom (tk) Kelly Mar 22, 2022 at 1:00 am

    Tim taught me a lot as a new referee back in the day that I am extremely grateful for!

  16. Janet and Rick Stout Mar 22, 2022 at 2:59 pm

    We are deeply saddened by the loss of Tim. He was a terrific guy. And had a great sense of humor. We always looked forward to seeing him, to see what funny t-shirt he would have on next. He loved his hot rods and his family very much! Not to mention his margaritas with salt. 😂 May Tim rest in peace! 🤗Janet and Rick ❤️

  17. Cindy Moore Mar 22, 2022 at 8:59 pm

    Tim will always be remembered in my house – as Patty for all the wonderful great times we enjoyed – usually around a soccer field someplace! Tim’s biting sense of humor and quick wit kept us all shaking our heads – he needed no encouragement! I loved those blue twinkling eyes, charming grin. I am sooo glad that you guys got to move to Florida and enjoy some time quality together. Memories! Holding you close. Cindy

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